Leaders must first travel down the gauntlet with those they lead before they are accepted as the leader. Joel Barker, the paradigm expert, has the best definition of leadership. He says, "Leadership is about taking people to a destination they wouldn’t go to by themselves." To reach that "destination," a leader must endure a "baptism by fire." He or she must prove themselves first. Until you prove yourself as a leader you will not have the respect and trust from those you are suppose to lead. The title "leader" is not something you call yourself. Like a crown, those you lead place it upon your head.